- Know yourself: Learn to recognize your reactions to stress and think of them as a warning: some stressors are bothering you.
- Research about such stressors: A cornerstone to cope with stress. Take a few minutes to elaborate a list of people, activities, events, things that bring in stress to your life. Specify the more immediate stressors: work, family, money? Is it possible to diminish the effect of the stressors?
- Put things in right context: Maybe you are stressing about relatively small things which will be soon forgotten. No matter your stress, worries, results, your failure or your success, the world will keep going around. Think carefully about your stressors: they might seem catastrophic monsters, but they’re just problems which will be forgotten as time goes by. Therefore, don’t rush through life, learn to take things slow. Enjoy your family, your meals, your nature, your life. What have you done today to reward the great person you are? Read more
The Path of Self-Esteem
Believing in oneself, in our capabilities, loving ourselves, that’s self-esteem. It does not depend on what other people think about us; it only depends on how (and what) we think about ourselves. People who suffer from low self-esteem (and low self-esteem is a real illness, a disease) are constantly seeking for approval of other people, there in the outside world. Of course everyone wants to be approved, loved and even admired by those around us. But we have to start by loving ourselves, and respecting each other internally.
Be strong. If we always try to impress by pretending what we are not, if we desperately seek applause or consent, if we need approbation of others, all the time, because otherwise we get depressed and let ourselves down, is because we lack sufficient self-esteem. We must not use appearances to hide our weakness and our lack of faith. It is as if beneath the tinsel we secretly know that our underwear is old, dirty and worn. That will also be perceived by our peers, and an x-ray machine is not needed to find it out. The feeling of worthlessness is transmitted. Because if you do not love yourself, no one will love you, and if you think you are worthless, other people will think it too.
Low self-esteem is a new concept in psychology, and its use has become commonplace, everyday, is the talk of the world. It might lead to real painful, dramatic suffering. An internal emptiness produces low self-esteem, inner loneliness, feeling nothing. To compensate for this deficiency some people try to link up with people they consider important and cool. Others flaunt their economic power, or knowledge, or of the trips they’ve made, or their acquired properties. No matter the mask, low self-esteem cannot be hidden. Think about all that people who seemingly had it all and ended painfully… they lacked the main thing: self-esteem, and they’ll need to follow the path of self-esteem.
Read moreUnderstanding Hyper-Empathy Syndrome
Hyper-empathy syndrome, often referred to as heightened empathy, is a condition characterized by an overwhelming ability to feel and understand the emotions of others. While empathy is a valuable trait that fosters connection and understanding, individuals with hyper-empathy experience these feelings to an extreme degree, often leading to both positive and negative consequences in their lives. Hyper-empathy is the double-edged sword of sensitivity. This blog post touches upon into the nuances of hyper-empathy, exploring its advantages, disadvantages, and the broader implications for those who experience it.
Read moreLearning to Believe
If we believe that we are able to do something, we’ll do it. If we believe we cannot do something, we won’t do it. The fact of believing or not influences our results, regardless of the area: sportive, economic, professional, personal, etc. If we repeat an assert a lot of times, we will ultimately believe it, and by carrying it out, we are able to modify our behavior. In other words, we reprogram ourselves. Words believe and belief take a central role and a special interest in regards to our capacity for success. In every case, we must research, recur to introspection and identify which beliefs are limiting us and preventing us from acting the way we’d like to. Beliefs are born and consolidate to produce, afterwards, positive or negative effects. Such beliefs influence our decisions. In fact, a belief is a deeply-rooted conviction.
We should differentiate clearly between beliefs and ideas. An idea is the mental image, devoid of action, which subsequently creates the belief. The belief, in turn, is a deeply-rooted conviction which influences our behavior and is present in our decision-making process. Beliefs stem from ideas, bearing positive or negative nuances. An idea can turn into a positive belief which will help us to personal growth and self-improvement. Our problems start when ideas are limiting, creating limiting beliefs, and dangerously constraining our behavior.
Furthermore, beliefs are affected by a series of events which surround an individual and influence his ideas. These events are: cultural background, job, opinions, accumulated experience, and the circle of influence. On each of these events a person develops her own ideas which will ultimately be reflected on the beliefs she embraces.
The constant search of negative references and the mental repetition of limiting phrases such as “I’ll never make it” lead us to unconsciously adopting negative behaviors. In this context, we are subjugated by the negative suggestions that we repeat to ourselves incessantly. The only way to break free from this constraining spiral is to be aware of our power to change negative approaches. Change has to start right now.
That’s why it’s so important to have and to form positive ideas, in order to let them to turn into deep, automatic positive beliefs. In this way these positive beliefs will influence our behavior, and will lead us to a successful life, full of victories. Hence, the first sentence of this post: If we believe that we are able to do something, we’ll do it. If we believe we cannot do something, we won’t do it.
Exercises
- Repeat 5 times: “I am a positive person, I can achieve my goals and I…” (complete the phrase)
- Identify a negative idea you have. Think about how you could turn it into a positive idea.
- Meditate about your main goals right now. Are they realistic, are they attainable?
- Do you fear failure? Meditate about this: Fearing failure is natural. Everyone fails. The problem is not failure, the problem is to halt after failing. Winners, leaders keep trying, and that’s why they’re are successful and different.
Breathing for Stress Relief
As psychological stress in our lives keeps growing, breathing in our activities is becomes increasingly shorter and faster, that is, we tend to inhale less oxygen as we exhale more. This causes our body to become quickly tired because of low blood flow due to the small amount of oxygen and the high levels of carbon dioxide. In turn, the physical fatigue stresses the muscles that support the spine and the weight of our body, generating unnatural pressure on the lungs and other internal organs. For its part, the brain, not receiving adequate amounts of oxygen, begins to reduce performance, and this causes drowsiness among other problems. Further, the diaphragm, when not working properly, makes little effort and loses tone, thus contributing to the reduction of lung capacity.
That is why it’s very important to learn to breathe properly, with simple exercises and frequent practice. Before going on, I recommend to review my previous post on mindful breathing. Now I’ll present here a simple routine for stress relief through breathing. Remember that breathing is especially important for those who suffer from stress, high blood pressure, anxiety or digestive problems. These symptoms and problems are typically the result of the body staying in conflict due to an disequilibrium of the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems. As our body is burdened with stress, our sympathetic nervous system is stimulated so often that it begins to dominate the parasympathetic nervous system resulting in chronic elevated blood pressure and heart rate, nervousness, anxiety and muscle tension, bowel problems. In this sense, the goal of this breathing exercise cleanses the body of diseases, steadies the mind, helps in concentration, improves digestion and increases appetite. The exercise can also be done anywhere and at virtually any time:
- First locate a quiet and comfortable place. Make sure the room is not too bright. If you prefer to play music, choose relaxing themes and set them to a reasonable volume level.
- Sit or stand in a relaxed position.
- Slowly inhale through your nose, counting to five in your head. As you breathe, let your abdomen expand outward, rather than raising your shoulders. This is a more relaxed and natural way to breathe, and helps your lungs fill themselves more fully with fresh air, releasing more old air.
- Let the air out from your mouth, counting to nine in your head as it leaves your lungs. If you like, you can make your throat a little tighter as you exhale so the air comes out like a whisper. This type of breathing is used in some forms of yoga and can add additional tension relief. Try for several breaths to make your breathing as quiet, slow, regular and deep as possible. Repeat the exercise several times (at least 10 times).
This simple exercise can also be used for meditation and visualization.
Closing tip: If you need quicker stress relief, try inhaling slowly, holding your breath for about 2 seconds, and then exhaling slowly. Repeat this process twice.
On Anxiety
Anxiety is a state of restlessness, and most of the time such state cannot be justified. It is not fear of something concrete at the outside but expresses our inner emotional conflicts. The person feels threatened by something of unreal nature, and is unable to handle such emotions. The anxious person may have been conditioned very early and may continue to be anxious in adulthood. It then becomes a characteristic of his nature that pervades all their actions and which turns the person in a candidate to suffer stress. Anxious people are fast, are always in a hurry, can not afford the time for all the activities they want to develop and are used to work on two or three things at once. When eating, anxious people swallow whole foods -tasteless- and consequently often suffer from dyspepsia, indigestion, bloating, irritable bowel, etc.
What is Mindful Breathing?
In my previous post, The Transformative Power of Meditation, I touched upon Mindful breathing (also referred to as Conscious breathing). Mindful breathing is a simple yet powerful practice that can have a profound impact on your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. In today’s fast-paced world, where stress and distractions are prevalent, incorporating mindful breathing into your daily routine can help you find peace, clarity, and presence. Let’s explore the art of mindful breathing, its techniques, and the myriad benefits it offers for overall health and wellness.
What is Mindful Breathing?
Mindful breathing, also known as deep breathing or diaphragmatic breathing, is a mindfulness practice that involves focusing on your breath to cultivate awareness, relaxation, and inner peace. By paying attention to the sensations of each inhale and exhale, you can anchor yourself in the present moment, quiet the mind, and reduce stress and anxiety. Mindful breathing is a fundamental aspect of mindfulness meditation and can be practiced anywhere, anytime.
Benefits of Mindful Breathing
The benefits of mindful breathing are numerous and far-reaching. By incorporating mindful breathing into your daily routine, you can reduce stress and anxiety, lower blood pressure, improve focus and concentration, enhance emotional regulation, and promote relaxation and calmness. Mindful breathing can also boost energy levels, increase self-awareness, and foster a sense of inner peace and well-being.
Techniques for Mindful Breathing
- Deep Belly Breathing: Find a comfortable seated or lying position, place one hand on your abdomen and the other on your chest. Inhale deeply through your nose, feeling your abdomen rise as you fill your lungs with air. Exhale slowly through your mouth, feeling your abdomen fall. Repeat this deep belly breathing for several breaths to promote relaxation and stress relief.
- Counting Breaths: Focus on your breath as you inhale and exhale, counting each breath cycle from one to five. Concentrate on the rhythm of your breathing and the sensation of air entering and leaving your body. If your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to your breath and continue counting. This technique can help improve focus and mindfulness.
- Box Breathing: Box breathing is a technique that involves inhaling, holding the breath, exhaling, and holding the breath again, each for a count of four. Visualize tracing a square or box shape as you breathe, inhaling for four counts, holding for four counts, exhaling for four counts, and holding again for four counts. Repeat this box breathing pattern for several cycles to calm the mind and body.
- Alternate Nostril Breathing: Sit comfortably with a straight spine, using your right thumb to close your right nostril and your ring finger to close your left nostril. Inhale through your left nostril, then close it with your ring finger and exhale through your right nostril. Inhale through your right nostril, close it, and exhale through your left nostril. Continue alternating nostrils for several breaths to balance energy and enhance focus.
- Sama Vritti (Equal Breathing): Sama vritti is a technique that involves inhaling and exhaling for an equal count, such as inhaling for a count of four and exhaling for a count of four. Focus on creating a smooth and steady rhythm with your breath, maintaining a consistent pace throughout the practice. Sama vritti breathing can promote relaxation, balance, and harmony within the body and mind.
- Ocean Breath (Ujjayi Breathing): Ujjayi breathing is a technique that involves creating a soft whispering sound in the back of your throat as you breathe. Inhale deeply through your nose, slightly constricting the muscles at the back of your throat to create the sound of ocean waves. Exhale slowly through your nose, maintaining the gentle constriction. Ujjayi breathing can help calm the mind, regulate emotions, and deepen your meditation practice.
- 4-7-8 Breathing: The 4-7-8 breathing technique involves inhaling for a count of four, holding the breath for a count of seven, and exhaling for a count of eight. Start by exhaling completely, then inhale quietly through your nose for four counts, hold your breath for seven counts, and exhale audibly through your mouth for eight counts. Repeat this 4-7-8 breathing pattern for several cycles to promote relaxation and reduce stress.
- Visualization Breathing: Combine mindful breathing with visualization by imagining a peaceful scene or symbol as you inhale and exhale. Picture yourself in a serene natural setting, such as a beach, forest, or mountain, and breathe in the tranquility and beauty of the surroundings. As you exhale, release any tension or negative thoughts, letting go of stress and worries. Visualization breathing can enhance relaxation, focus, and creativity.
- Progressive Relaxation Breathing: Progressive relaxation breathing involves tensing and relaxing different muscle groups in coordination with your breath. Start by inhaling deeply and tensing a specific muscle group, such as your shoulders or fists. Hold the tension for a few seconds, then exhale and release the tension, allowing the muscles to relax completely. Continue this progressive relaxation technique with different muscle groups to reduce physical tension and promote relaxation.
- Mindful Breathing Meditation: Set aside dedicated time for a mindful breathing meditation practice, finding a quiet and comfortable space where you can sit or lie down. Close your eyes, focus on your breath, and observe the sensations of each inhale and exhale. Allow your breath to be your anchor to the present moment, letting go of distractions and thoughts. Practice mindful breathing meditation for several minutes to cultivate mindfulness and inner peace.
The Transformative Power of Meditation
Meditation is a practice that has been around for centuries, offering a myriad of benefits for the mind, body, and soul. In today’s fast-paced world, where stress and distractions are prevalent, incorporating meditation into your daily routine can be a game-changer. Let’s delve into the world of meditation, exploring its various aspects and the profound impact it can have on your overall well-being.
What is Meditation?
Meditation is a technique that involves focusing the mind on a particular object, thought, or activity to achieve a state of mental clarity and emotional calmness. It is a practice that encourages mindfulness and self-awareness, helping individuals cultivate a sense of inner peace and tranquility amidst the chaos of daily life.
Importance of Meditation for Health
The health benefits of meditation are numerous and well-documented. Regular meditation practice has been shown to reduce stress, lower blood pressure, boost the immune system, and improve overall physical health. By calming the mind and relaxing the body, meditation can help alleviate symptoms of anxiety, depression, and chronic pain.
Importance of Meditation for Productivity
Meditation is not just beneficial for physical health but also plays a crucial role in enhancing productivity and focus. By training the mind to be present and attentive, meditation can improve cognitive function, concentration, and decision-making skills. Incorporating short meditation sessions into your workday can help you stay energized and efficient.
Importance of Meditation for Relaxing and Lowering Stress
One of the primary reasons people turn to meditation is to find relaxation and reduce stress. The practice of meditation activates the body’s relaxation response, releasing tension and promoting a sense of calmness. By focusing on the present moment and letting go of worries, meditation can help you unwind and recharge your mind and body.
How to Meditate
Meditation is a simple yet powerful practice that anyone can incorporate into their daily routine. To begin, find a quiet and comfortable space where you can sit or lie down. Close your eyes, take deep breaths, and focus on your breath or a specific mantra. Allow your thoughts to come and go without judgment, returning your attention to the present moment whenever distractions arise.
Colors of Life
After publishing my friend’s message and commenting on her intentions to take a vacations trip, I somehow wished to take a little vacation too. As I have no ties to prevent it, I adhered to my wish. I took a few days trip, totally disconnected from the Internet and the current rush of technology. Over there, I met up with a longtime friend and her family… It had been ages since I saw them last, so it was good to finally catch up, and we all had a good time and a lot of stories to tell. Thank God, they’re OK, in general. All of her kids have grown up nicely, already graduated, and have married. Except for the eldest daughter, who has a health problem. A few years ago, she was diagnosed with diabetes, and that fact did lead to many drastic changes in her lifestyle. Of course, now she follows healthier food and exercise habits, which is totally recommendable (and mandatory!). However, there are some changes which are too excessive and harmful, in my opinion. Despite her disease is medically controlled, and shes does not feel any physical problem (on the contrary, she externally reveals a spectacular health condition), her courage and joy have fallen considerably. She used to be a playful and lively girl, but now she decided to give up parties, to go shopping with her friends, love… and everything joyful, simply because she is afraid of suffering a sudden, unexpected diabetic complication or coma, amidst the happiness of the reunion. She would become a disturbance… others would see her weak and in panic, prey to fear. And she does not want to go through that. She is concerned about what might happen, and what her friends could say. In a sense, she fears rejection.
On Regrets, Anger and Envy
In today’s fast-paced world, it is easy to get caught up in the past, dwelling on regrets and missed opportunities. However, it is crucial to realize that dwelling on regrets only serves to hinder our progress and prevent us from living a fulfilling life. Time is a precious resource, and we must use it wisely. By focusing on the present moment and looking towards the future, we can make the most of our time and create a life that brings us joy and fulfillment.
Similarly, holding onto anger only drains our energy and prevents us from living a peaceful and contented life. Anger is a natural emotion, but when we allow it to consume us, it becomes toxic and detrimental to our overall well-being. Instead, redirecting our energy towards positive pursuits and finding healthy ways to cope with anger can lead to a more harmonious existence.
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