Believing in oneself, in our capabilities, loving ourselves, that’s self-esteem. It does not depend on what other people think about us; it only depends on how (and what) we think about ourselves. People who suffer from low self-esteem (and low self-esteem is a real illness, a disease) are constantly seeking for approval of other people, there in the outside world. Of course everyone wants to be approved, loved and even admired by those around us. But we have to start by loving ourselves, and respecting each other internally.
Be strong. If we always try to impress by pretending what we are not, if we desperately seek applause or consent, if we need approbation of others, all the time, because otherwise we get depressed and let ourselves down, is because we lack sufficient self-esteem. We must not use appearances to hide our weakness and our lack of faith. It is as if beneath the tinsel we secretly know that our underwear is old, dirty and worn. That will also be perceived by our peers, and an x-ray machine is not needed to find it out. The feeling of worthlessness is transmitted. Because if you do not love yourself, no one will love you, and if you think you are worthless, other people will think it too.
Low self-esteem is a new concept in psychology, and its use has become commonplace, everyday, is the talk of the world. It might lead to real painful, dramatic suffering. An internal emptiness produces low self-esteem, inner loneliness, feeling nothing. To compensate for this deficiency some people try to link up with people they consider important and cool. Others flaunt their economic power, or knowledge, or of the trips they’ve made, or their acquired properties. No matter the mask, low self-esteem cannot be hidden. Think about all that people who seemingly had it all and ended painfully… they lacked the main thing: self-esteem, and they’ll need to follow the path of self-esteem.
For raising and building up self-esteem, I provide a few keypoints for meditation. Think about each fact just as it is.
- We forge the quality of our lives, according to our image of happiness.
- We decide what is the image of our own person, what we want to be.
- We decided on our own worth and how much happiness we want.
- The first step in improving our results is changing the way we think and talk about ourselves.
- Our image is like a thermostat and our performance occurs within the preset limits.
- The image we have of ourselves, we determined we can think or concentrate.
- A healthy self-esteem allows us to fulfill our own desires and also those of others.
- This means we can be proud of our achievements without having to disclose them to everybody, and we can accept our limitations in the journey to improve ourselves.
- A healthy self-esteem means that we are not obliged to justify, to ourselves or to anyone, the things we do.
- We feel comfortable doing things that add quality and beauty to our lives.
- We can make an estimate of our own image observing those around us.
- Our tendency is to build relationships with those who treat us like we deserve.
- People with a healthy image of themselves command respect from others.
- They themselves are given good treatment, and thereby tell the other people how to treat them.
- People treat us like we treat ourselves.
- Those with whom we interact quickly realize if we respect ourselves. If we treat them with respect, they will do the same to us!
- Our behavior and our subconscious programming interact with the concept that we have about ourselves.
- The way we interact with other people reflects the degree of appreciation we have for ourselves at any given time.
- Poor self-image makes us think that we deserve nothing, this leads to sabotaging our own happiness.
- Change is difficult. The bad image tends to perpetuate itself.
- When trying to change, old patterns of guilt and self-deception will fiercely resist to disappear. Patience and perseverance is the key.
- It is critical that we do everything necessary to have (and keep) positive thoughts.
- Self-esteem is a key for happiness.
Let’s think about these keypoints 🙂